Choosing a Spouse

• Is the father obligated to inform the suitor about his daughter's scoliosis, even though doctors have confirmed that it does not prevent her from fulfilling her marital duties, and despite the daughter's desire not to inform him before the engagement is agreed upon?
• Does a divorce uttered in an imaginary conversation with the wife's mother take effect, knowing that I suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder?
• What is the ruling on a father who wrongs his wife and beats her, and invokes death upon himself and humiliation upon his wife after his death?
• Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a Muslim man without the consent of her family? And what is the difference between a man choosing his wife and a Muslim woman choosing her husband, if the answer is no?
• Should a girl be patient and refrain from marriage until a committed man proposes to her, or should she agree to marry a man who prays but commits some sins?
• Is a suitor entitled to break off an engagement in order to marry another, and is the fiancée sinful for not forgiving him?
• Should I accept a marriage proposal from a suitor who lives in Canada and has impaired vision, knowing that I live in Britain, and he seems to be a committed and kind person?
• Is it permissible for a religious, virgin woman, who has memorized the Qur'an and the Sunnah, is educated and beautiful, but is unable to conceive, to search for a husband with the intention of a lawful marriage, given that no suitor has proposed to her?
• What is the ruling on the dowry that was paid to the fiancée after the marriage contract, and is she entitled to half of it if it became apparent to the suitor after the contract that his fiancée had previous relationships and engaged in immoral acts, and he was unaware of this until after the contract?
• Is a father's obedience obligatory in refraining from marrying a girl of good character and religious commitment, if the reason for refusal is not religiously valid, and that is his dislike for the girl's family, who are related to his wife?
• Is it better for a 21-year-old Muslim woman to marry, or to dedicate herself to caring for her elderly parents and financially supporting her younger siblings in their education?
• Is it incumbent upon a girl suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and striving to overcome it to inform a suitor of her condition, knowing that informing him might impede her recovery, and what are the flaws that a suitor must be made aware of?
• How can one deal with a wife who is quick to anger, magnifies trifles, does not obey her husband except with her consent, and has reached the point of asking for divorce in a moment of anger?
• Does divorce take effect if a man repeats the word "taliq" (divorced) to himself or says it to himself without his wife or anyone else hearing it, given that he suffers from obsessive thoughts about divorce, does not intend divorce, and is ignorant of the rulings regarding uttering it?
• Is the wife still under her husband's authority after she refused to accompany him to Syria and he told her: "If you don't come, then you have permission to be divorced," and is it permissible for her to divorce him without sin?
• What is the religious and Sharia ruling on a young man marrying a girl he is pleased with, but his father refuses for worldly reasons, while his mother agrees? And is marrying her without his father's consent considered disobedience to him?
• Should one inform the woman one intends to marry about being afflicted with chronic epilepsy?
• Does Islamic law take into account the psychological state of a woman—for example, if she is going through a turbulent psychological period—if her husband desires sexual intimacy and she does not, and what is the evidence for that?
• What is meant by the great “fitnah” (strife/temptation) and “fasad” (corruption) mentioned in the Hadith: “If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you [seeking marriage], then marry [him to your guardian's ward]. If you do not do so, there will be fitnah in the land and widespread corruption,” and upon whom will this corruption and fitnah befall?
• Is a reversion to Islam with the intention of the validity of the return for the husband's infallibility considered incorrect? Does it contradict the condition of sincerity in repentance and the pronouncement of the Two Testimonies? What is the ruling on repentance and the Two Testimonies with this intention? Is this reversion to Islam valid? What is Ibn Taymiyyah's view that the apostasy of one spouse does not necessitate the dissolution of the marriage?
• Are the aforementioned reasons – such as the suitor's ill-will and deceit, his financial situation, his spending on his family without prior notification, his fiancée's hatred for his mother, and the haste of the marriage contract – considered justifications for seeking annulment after the marriage contract? And is the lack of success in choosing a spouse linked to filial disobedience, and does their subsequent رضا (satisfaction) negate the effect of their previous دعاء (supplication)?
• Is a husband's saying to his wife: "Choose, either we continue or we divorce," or "Choose divorce, or we continue together," or "Do you live with me or do you divorce" considered a form of divorce by choice, and does it fall under Al-Shafi'i's saying that it is an implicit statement that depends on the husband's intention?
• What is the ruling on preventing one's brother from divorcing his wife and searching for another wife for him, given our knowledge of his insistence and the wife's desire to stay?
• Is it Islamically permissible to delay childbearing by the wife without her consent, for fear of harming her in the future if there is a divorce or marriage to another, given his dissatisfaction with her, and his hesitation in making a decision to marry another or divorce?