Is it permissible for a wife to refuse to obey her husband in matters that do not displease Allah and are not related to her financial responsibility, and is it considered ill-treatment to feud with the husband and change one's behavior, and is it permissible for a wife to treat her husband in kind by raising her voice?

A wife must obey her husband in what is right and in what does not involve disobedience to Allah. Some scholars have specialized this to matters related to marriage and its ancillary aspects. A woman is not permitted to treat her husband in kind for his bad character; she should not raise her voice at him if he raises his, nor abandon him if he abandons her. Rather, she must fulfill his rights, even if some scholars have allowed reciprocal treatment in matters where retaliation (qisas) is permissible. Marriage is a means for family stability and mutual respect between spouses.