Is the problem with the shy, religious girl who had her engagement broken off twice because she was accused of being emotionally cold and unexpressive, due to her desire to adhere to Islamic boundaries and postpone words of love until after the marriage contract?
May Allah reward you for your eagerness to remain steadfast. Piety brings goodness and sustenance, for Allah the Almighty says: "And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out And will provide for him from where he does not expect."
You were correct in refusing to interact with the suitors in ways that violate Islamic law. A suitor is a stranger to his fiancée, and conversation between them is not permissible except out of necessity and according to Islamic guidelines. The temptation of Satan is not safe when one is alone with a strange woman.
If a suitor wishes to enjoy sitting and talking with his fiancée, he should enter into a valid marriage contract with her. We advise you to seek a man of religion and good character, for the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "If someone whose religion and character you approve comes to you to seek marriage, then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be tribulation on earth and widespread corruption."
Do not dwell on the past. Ask Allah to facilitate for you someone better than them, and seek a righteous man with the help of your trustworthy relatives and friends.
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