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Is a wife obligated to boycott her religious friend—who is nevertheless flawed—in obedience to her husband’s command, even if he refuses to reconcile with her after the boycott, saying: "Do as you please, but I am displeased with this"?

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First, advise your friend gently and when she is in a calm state, showing her your well-wwishing. Perhaps Allah will benefit her through your words.

Second, if she persists in her condition, try to convince your husband to allow you to visit her, and remind him that the benefit of your learning religion from her is greater than any expected harms, and that her qualities do not necessitate a complete severance, as she might have an excuse.

Third, if your husband is convinced, then all praise is due to Allah. If he insists on refusing her and orders you to cut ties with her, then obedience to him is obligatory.

Fourth, it is not permissible to obey him if he orders you to completely abandon your friend, leading to a quarrel, because boycotting for more than three days is not permissible for a Muslim, and obedience is only in what is right and lawful.

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