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Is it permissible to celebrate the acceptance of an engagement within the two families, with legal Islamic guidelines, and to present a ring or a band to the fiancée on this occasion, and to continue exchanging gifts between the engaged couple, such as roses and similar items, along with words of love? Is it permissible to ask about the preferred type of gifts for the fiancée? And what should be done if the fiancée or her family insist on any of these matters?

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There is no objection to holding an engagement ceremony, provided it adheres to Islamic guidelines. The exchange of gifts between the suitor and the fiancée is permissible. If the marriage contract is concluded, the gift given during the engagement becomes the property of the wife. If the contract is not concluded, the suitor may reclaim his gift. There is no objection to presenting a ring to the fiancée, but it is better to avoid the "dublah" (wedding band) as it is a custom of non-Muslims. Caution must be exercised against the suitor placing the ring or dublah on the fiancée's finger. The fiancée is considered a non-mahram (stranger) to the suitor; therefore, it is impermissible to exchange flirtatious remarks with her except out of necessity, and one must be careful not to overextend interactions with her. A gift falls under the category of donations, and the husband cannot be compelled to give it. What is legally binding upon him is the mahr (dowry) upon the conclusion of the marriage contract.

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